Basically what the parents were discussing was how they thought that their kids were happy and easy-going because of the nature of their brain injury. Many parents commented that their children were happy even when engaged in an activity which would make “other” kids unhappy. For example, one parent commented that they were worried about their child because they were so willing to do their homework again and again even though it was a subject that they had difficulties with.
So, what bothered me? I guess it was just the fact that so many of the parents seemed to be over analyzing their kids and seemed to be concerned about the fact that their children were happy because of their brain injury. I know that the effects of a brain injury can be wide ranging and as parents we should be aware of issues that our children might face. This one, however, did not occur to me. You see, Bennett is happy, he is good-natured and he’s easy going. Yes, he has his moments but overall he seems to be a very happy and easy child. He has been this way since he was a baby and many people have commented on it. Now I would like to think that this is due to the fact that it is his nature and that he is surrounded by people who are generally the same – and oh yeah – my spectacular parenting abilities! But maybe, it is due to the fact that his brain was injured in the “happy spot”.
In either case, this is not something I want to worry about or even think about. I want to enjoy it! I don’t care that Bennett wakes me up every morning with a smile, a giggle and a kiss because of a brain injury. The fact is that he does and I love it. I don’t care that he may work hard at school and fail yet smile at the same time.
I hope I haven’t come across as being too critical of those parents because that’s not what I want. The parents that post on that message board are incredible and amazing advocates and supporters of their children. I guess the whole thread just bothered me because I would like to attribute Bennett’s good nature to him and not to his brain injury. In the end though his brain injury is part of who he is and part of who he’ll become and I guess I just want to be happy because he’s happy regardless of the reason.